Secret Kid’s Business
Once your child starts school there is six hours of each day that become a complete mystery. Some lucky mothers may get a blow-by-blow account of the day, but most of us are left wondering what their child gets up to at school all day.
I have given up on the daily interrogations and simply greet him with the standard question ‘How was your day?” each afternoon. Of course I get the standard “good” response. Some days he may go on to throw me little morsels of information throughout the afternoon and evening. On other days I get very little or nothing at all. . .
I am learning to live with it and go with the flow. I realise that this is how it’s going to be from now on. He is becoming more independent from me, and for the most part, his school life is his own. He chooses what he likes to share and what he keeps to himself.
Thankfully he is enjoying school and I know that he is very happy. The area of challenge for me at the moment is getting him to open up when things are bothering him. Is staying quiet a sign of independence and an attempt to deal with small challenges by himself? Or is it these times when I really need to encourage him to talk?
It seems to be a real balancing act. Yes I understand he is growing up, but I really believe helping him deal with life’s little challenges now will better equip him to solve the bigger challenges later on. I want him to know he can tell me and his Dad anything – good or bad.
Have you found your child keeping things that happen at school from you? If so, how do you deal with it?