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If you have more than one child, does one of them try to be the head or the boss of the other/s?

My six year old son is intent on being the boss of his three year old brother.  Whilst the little one does look up to his big brother, he definitely has a mind of his own.  Many times he is happy to go along with what his is told or meant to do, but lately he has been standing up to him a lot more.

I try to let them work out their disagreements and power struggles.  Obviously I step in when things get out of hand or if they can’t resolve their differences themselves.

Boys and dads

My husband is away from home many times during the week due to work, so often it is just me and the boys throughout the week.

At times it is difficult, particularly on those occasions when we have all been sick or when the boys were really young.  I take my hat off to all the single parent families out there.

Now the boys are getting older, they are really starting to miss having their Dad around every day. They jump all over him when he gets home and often they choose him over me when it comes to putting them to bed or reading a story.

Boys look up to their Dads for many reasons.   They are often more fun and not as cautious and serious as their Mum – well this is true in our family anyway.

Opening Up

My usually chatty 6 year old, won’t talk to me about something he perceives as bad that happened at school the other day. How am I supposed to help, if he won’t talk about it?

I tried every approach imaginable. I got nothing – except an increasingly irritable child that will just not open up.

I guess that’s the point. Maybe I am not supposed to help.  As he said himself ‘it’s over – I can handle it’. Where he got that terminology from is another mystery to me. So for now, I am going to trust that he can handle it and turn off my over-bearing mother switch. . .

Too Busy To Play

With kids back at school and back into the terms activities, I sometimes wonder whether they are doing too much.

Both my sons attend three structured activities during the week. This is on top of school for my six year old and preschool for the three year old.

As we race around week after week, I wonder are all of these activities really necessary? Of course every kid in Australia has to learn to swim, but what of the other activities we enrol them in?  

Maybe coming home from school and playing outside, rather than rushing off to another commitment is better for them.

Are we becoming a generation that wants our kids to excel at everything from sport to music to art? Maybe making mudpies and daisy chains is just as good. 

The Hand Signal

There is a lot of talk about helicopter parenting and how we need to give children their independence and space to grow.

I hope that I am not quite a helicopter parent, but I sometimes do struggle with knowing when is the right time to let my six year old do things on his own.

School is six kilometres away and the buses aren’t that great around our area, so I do drop him off and pick him up every day.  In his kinder/prep year I got a kiss every time he went off to his classroom, but this week I got the hand. “No kissing Mum – I am in Year 1 now”  he said.

I didn’t think I would be at this stage just yet.  But that’s the funny thing when you are a parent, learning to stand back when kids take the lead.